Wait, Marriages Aren’t Always Jubilant?
Once upon a time, a man and a woman loved each other very much; so they
decided to get married. The wedding was beautiful, and everyone was so happy
during the ceremony. They bought a big
house, had children, and lived (fill in the blank, it’s just three words). It’s
how most stories are ended by, living ‘happily ever after’, but unfortunately,
marriage is temporarily consumed of wedded bliss. Sonja Lyubomirsky’s New Love: A Short Shelf Life directly
addresses the cold-hard reality that the euphoria experienced when two people
gather in holy monogamy for the first time will not preserve. Lyubomirsky
examines the perplexing challenge of sustaining a long-lasting, holy monogamy,
designating this disheartening truth, in which no one wants to acknowledge as
factual, as a straining cycle which never ends with the help from ample
scientific evidence on how the brain functions during these times. Sad? Maybe,
but it’s better to be informed of this information now than to shocked that
your marriage isn’t so magical after all. So to all the lovebirds out there
waiting to tie the knot, pause for a moment and think to yourself, “I will be spending every single day with
[him or her] for the rest of my life. Can I do this?”, and if the answer is no,
then don’t get married.
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